Be a Help Meet.
To all the women out there and growing girls and especially the blessed women who get to stay at home, it is time to embrace who Yahweh God has created you to be. God designed women for a specific purpose: to be a Help Meet.
Gen. 2:18 "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
The Hebrew for this is Ezer kenegdo. It means "life saver." Other than here, it is only used to refer to God's relationship with His people. He is our lifesaver. The One who will come through for us.
Deaut 33:26 "There is no one like the God of Jeshurun,
who rides on the heavens to help you
and on the clouds in his majesty."
In the same way, God has created us to be a "lifesaver" or "meeter of our husband's needs." We are to be there for him when no one else can help. It is an extremely important position. It is one we need to take very seriously. Afterall, it was ordered by God.
God made man and then He made woman. We were made for man.
1Cor 11:8 "For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; 9neither was man created for woman, but woman for man."
This is not a disgrace for women, and it does not mean that we are less important than men. We are different. We were created for different purposes. It also mean that we are subordinate to our husbands. Our husbands in turn are subordinate to Christ. Christ is Subordinate to God the Father.
1Cor11:3 "Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God."
It is the order God has created. It is for our benefit and good.
Gen 1:27 "So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground."... 31 God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning—the sixth day."As subordinates, it is our job to support our husbands. Our job is to come under their authority and bolster them. We do this in a variety of ways that may surprise you. It is something that should be handed down from one generation of women (the older) to the next (the younger).
Titus 2:3 "The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."
God has told us exactly what we need to do. It is high time that we embrace our commission, obey the Word of God so that we may fulfill our roles and do what is good. What we have been created to do. Only in doing so can we find contentment and happiness where we are at right now.
This comes in a variety of ways that may seem strange to you. We can do this by first taking our position as help meet seriously. By Loving and serving our husbands. This means respecting him, speaking only good of him, attending to his needs physically, sexually, and mentally (dinner ready, listening to him and responding in love, embracing his dreams and helping him achieve them, giving him the good lovin', not nagging, not making unfair demands, not criticizing, etc.; By raising our children in the fear of God, correcting and disciplining them, giving them our time and attention, teaching them to be godly men and women, taking care of them; By being discreet (1 : having or showing discernment or good judgment in conduct and especially in speech : prudent; especially : capable of preserving prudent silence
2 : unpretentious, modest 3 : unobtrusive); By being Chaste (controlling ones actions and impulses so that they remain pure, undefiled, modest, and free from any taint of sexual impurity in thought, deed, and dress); By keeping a clean and pleasant home. It doesn't have to be expensive or lavishly furnished, only comfortable and clean. Tending first to your home and family before going to help the church or others or to socialize. By being Good. Praiseworthy in Character, Phil 4:8"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."; By being obedient to their husbands. YOU ARE NOT IN CHARGE. You are commanded by God to submit to your husband. Your home can only function well if you do this and do it without whining, grumbling, complaining or manipulating him or guilting him into doing things your way. As long as you are not breaking God's law or man's law by obeying your husband, just do it and obey. After all, you can't both be in charge. And as we already learned, man is the God given authority of women.
If you want a full study of all of this, read "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl. The above has been extrapolated from the outline of her book and the meat of what I learned about being a help meet from an older woman to a younger woman about God's Word.